In all respects, we must say these five words: do you see other people?
"This conversation lasts about a month or two," says Michael Aaron, Ph.D., a sex therapist in New York. "At this point, people begin to develop mutual feelings and want to know where they are going."
While it is an absolutely normal conversation, being that she may feel may feel nervous as a pinch. "People are very scared," Aaron said. "But you have to be sure that you have the right to ask this question."
So how to talk without losing the cold? We asked Aaron about his suggestions on how to ask his new friend to sleep with other people.
The best way to avoid disturbing (and potentially anxious) conversation is directly to what you want. "First, you want to be clear with the person you are with and the type of relationship you are looking for," he says. That is, do not try to play cool and say that you are looking for an occasional bond if you really want a relationship. They will only be on the way to a more complex conversation.
Although before you do, what you are looking for may be a good tactic, be aware that asking a new boy or girl to participate early can feel like a question, says Aaron. "It may seem presumptuous or how to push someone." So, when does it stop being strange to appear? Once it has been regularly suspended (Aaron has been defined two or three times a week) for a few months, it is usually the right time to ask. "As far as this frequency is concerned, it's a fair question because you have a lot of time."
If you want to keep the conversation out of mutual panic, keep it simple and simple, says Aaron. "Not necessarily" sex with other people? "" From the door with a loaded question, you can get the person who is out of the defense. To prevent the conversation from starting with a battery tone, ask if you are in contact with other people. "You can say it by chance," Aaron said. And then, "when they say they see other people, it's worth asking if it means they're sleeping with others
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